Watch your words, they become actions.
Watch your actions, they become habits.
Watch your habits, they become your character.
Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.
I cringe inwardly when I hear people say something about themselves that describe a personality flaw. The remark can be so forceful that I can hear the total belief in the statement. For example, I have said to friends “Tell yourself in the mirror I love you!” their faces contort with horror rejecting even the notion that they could say such a thing to themselves, “Oh no, I can’t do that!” They literally look disgusted at the mere thought of saying it out loud let alone in their head.
Loving yourself is not vanity, it is however a very subtle form of narcissism but not excessively. True love encompasses kindness, forgiveness, empathy and is totally unconditional. Do you practice unconditional love for yourself? “Oh I will love myself when I am thin, I will love myself when I earn more money, I will love myself when the other person changes their behaviour!” No, no, no! Love yourself now, in this very moment, for there is only now, there is only this present moment.